We all get how important it is to talk with someone with whom we trust whenever we are faced with problems. Girls are often encouraged to talk with their moms or dads when something is wrong, but we know that is sometimes very difficult to do. We think our parents could never understand, or worse, whatever they say will just make our problems bigger. In her book, Queen Bees and Wannabes, Rosalind Wiseman writes to parents, “The key to building your relationship with your daughter is understanding why she s turning away from you and toward her friends, and maintaining a relationship with her anyway.”
Wiseman’s book is an excellent resource, and she is a respected authority on this topic, but girls, aren’t you too? This month’s question focuses on what you need from your moms and dads as you enter the sometimes rocky years of adolescence. Please write your comments and encourage your parents to read this month’s blog.
You do not have to put your name on the post, but you have to include your actual e-mail address while posting your comment. As always, only Mrs. Meek and I see that, and it is NEVER published. While writing, consider the following:
1. Why do you go to your parents with your problems and concerns?
2. What are some reasons that you won’t go to your parent, but seek the advice of your friends instead?
3. What should your parents NEVER do when you go to them with a problem? List all your suggestions!
4. How can your parents improve the lines of communication with you and help you come to them to talk?
Thanks, girls. Next month we will ask your parents for their advice on how you can help keep open the lines of communcation with them. So, parents, start thinking!
4 responses so far ↓
1 grace price // Feb 18, 2009 at 10:45 am
I go to my parents with my problems because they have gone through problems like mine, so they know how to solve them.
Sometimes I go to my friends is because parents sometimes think that our problems aren’nt important in every day life.
Parents should never interupt, say it’s not important right now, fell like they should go beat-up the kid who hurt me unless it was physical pain, tell anybody else because it might be personal.
They should like to care about you when you come to ask them for something important no matter what is going on at the time. I am not saying they should stop what ever they are doing and come to you all the time. The parents should still care and set aside a day to talk to their child about recent problems.
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2 jennifer // Feb 18, 2009 at 10:45 am
1. Because they are your parents and they have a right to know whats going on in your life and if you wish not to tell your parents what is going on then you must got tell a trusted adult about the problems you have.
2. Sometimes you can’t exactly go to your parents because its more of a kid thing not a telling parents thing so if you go to your freinds go ahead but you should always have a trusted adult that you can go to. And your friends will understand what is going on better than your parents.
3. NEVER tell anyone else because it may be a little personal for you. Not embaress you if that is something that you may not want anyone to know.
4. They should like care about you when you come to ask them for something important no matter what is going on at the time i am not saying they should drop everything and come to you all the time but they should stil care and also have like a mounthly disscussion with you to make sure everything is ok in your life and whats going on.
Mrs. Meek those were really good things to ask and discuss with us and I <3 GEMS so much i cant wait until next year because now i just finished my session and i feel like a pretty nice girl not as mean as i was before. THANK YOU!
3 Samantha // Feb 23, 2009 at 3:21 pm
I’m just gonna answer 3, but you shouldn’t laugh, interrupt, or say somethings not important to your daughter.
4 Mrs. Ball // Feb 26, 2009 at 6:15 pm
Thanks for your comments, girls. It is important to communicate with parents, and sometimes girls need to help their parents help them! And Jennifer, I always thought that you were a pretty nice girl, (I would put that in quotes to quote you, but my quotation mark key is not working!) but I am glad to hear that you feel even better about how you are treating others. Keep up the good work!
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